6 ideas for an exciting virtual date
With a bit of creativity—and a willingness to play together—virtual dates can be sweet, playful, or deliciously bold. Here are ideas to try from date #1 to #100.
Want to turn a match into a real shared moment without leaving home? Virtual dates can be tender, fun… or delightfully naughty. The essentials: a clear framework (consent, boundaries, timing), a dash of creativity, and the desire to play as a team. Here are ideas to try, whether it’s your first or hundredth date.
Watch a movie “together”
“Netflix and chill” works perfectly at a distance. Use a sync extension to start a movie, series, or short at the same time. Pick a genre you both enjoy (rom-com, thriller, comedy… or adult content if you both agree), hit play, and comment in real time.
Play a game (light or spicy)
Games break the ice and build connection. Reliable picks:
- Truth or Dare (start soft, turn up the spice only if you both consent).
- Two-person quiz (pop culture, music, “who knows me better?”).
- Conversation decks: lots of questions to get to know each other (kinks, fantasies, boundaries) with zero judgment. Want to give it a try? Here’s a curated selection of conversation games.
Share a meal
Cook your favorite dish on each side, or order from the same restaurant. Set your phone at table height, light a candle, pour a drink, and enjoy a “table for two” as if you were seated together.
💡 Tip: make a shared playlist in the background.
Speed workshop: cocktails (or mocktails)
Pick a simple recipe, list the ingredients, and mix live. Name your creations (a wink to something from their profile) and toast to your date.
Virtual tours & experiences
Want variety? Try an online museum tour, a streaming concert, a two-person drawing session (quick pose/sketch), or a mini remote class (yoga, cooking, dance). What counts is doing something together, not perfection.
If you want to turn up the heat
If the attraction is there and you both want it (meaning explicit consent), your virtual date can become sexual. Set the ground rules: what’s allowed or not, what can be shown, a no-recording policy (recommended), a safe-word to pause, and a bit of aftercare to wind down.
How to position yourself
- Seated, slightly angled, camera slightly above: shows your face and part of your body—great for reading reactions.
- On your knees, facing the camera or at a gentle angle: natural posture, fluid movement, visible breathing.
- Standing, camera steady in a wide shot: freedom to move, come closer, or step back depending on intensity.
What to do
- Start gently: dim (or switch off) the lights, keep eyes closed if you want to focus on sound, begin partially dressed and undress slowly for your partner’s pleasure.
- Communicate: let natural moans and sighs flow; add dirty talk if you’re comfortable (how you feel, what turns you on, when you’re close). You can guide your partner or follow their lead (consensual power play).
- Add toys (and lube): explore new sensations and aim for more intense (or even multiple) pleasures.
- Stay in control: you can stop, slow down, or change your mind at any time. Enthusiastic consent is checked continuously.
A small kit to prep for a virtual date
- Headphones + stable connection
- A stand/tripod for your camera/phone/laptop
- Soft lighting
- Drink, snack, blanket (comfort = relaxation)
- Shared rules (duration, boundaries, no screenshots, the right to say stop, etc.)
Bottom line: a great virtual date blends a clear framework, one simple idea, and the freedom to dial up the intensity if you both want to. Start playful, keep communication open, and let the chemistry decide the rest.
Laurence Gribling
Writer
Curious about everything, I talk about pleasure with no taboos and no pressure. Here, I’ll introduce you to practices that set desire ablaze, share tips for safe encounters, and offer simple ideas to spice up your dates—from the first message to those shivers that keep you smiling. If you want clear advice that’s a little cheeky and 100% supportive, you’re in the right place.
