6 tips for safer in-person dates
Moving from fantasy to reality is exciting—and it can stay safe with a few simple habits. In this article, we share 6 tips to keep your meet-up stress-free and focused on pleasure.
You matched, the connection is real, and you’re ready to take things offline? Love it. Here’s how to keep the date as hot as it is safe.
Start with a video call
A quick video chat helps you avoid unpleasant surprises: confirm they are who they say they are and check for chemistry. On JALF, sign in on your phone and start a video call directly from their profile.
Tell a trusted friend your plans
Share the location, time, and a few helpful details about your date (photo, first name, JALF handle), and agree on a check-in at a set time. Better safe than sorry.
Trust your instincts
If something feels off, you can end the date at any moment—even after months of chatting, even if dinner is paid, even if things have turned intimate. If you don’t feel safe, leave.
Manage your own transportation
For a first meet-up, make sure you have your own way to arrive and leave (car, taxi, ride-hailing app) so you can go when you want without relying on the other person.
Protect yourself
Condoms or dental dams are always a good idea. The goal is pleasure—not STIs or an unplanned pregnancy. Beyond condoms, ask a healthcare professional about other options. Knowing your status (and your partner’s) helps you decide confidently.
Always get enthusiastic consent
Consent is confirmed before and during the date. Ask simple questions (“Does this feel good?”, “Shall we keep going?”) and make sure everyone is comfortable from start to finish.
Happy dating!
Laurence Gribling
Writer
Curious about everything, I talk about pleasure with no taboos and no pressure. Here, I’ll introduce you to practices that set desire ablaze, share tips for safe encounters, and offer simple ideas to spice up your dates—from the first message to those shivers that keep you smiling. If you want clear advice that’s a little cheeky and 100% supportive, you’re in the right place.
