Designed for safe pleasure
Explore your desires freely, express yourself at your own pace, and enjoy a secure experience that prioritizes your privacy.
Our tips for a safe experience
Simple tips and smart habits to protect yourself and keep your experience smooth and worry-free.
Profile Safety
- Use a username that doesn’t give away your real identity (no "FirstLast123").
- Keep your personal info (address, workplace) to yourself until trust is established.
- Make sure your photos don’t reveal details that are too specific (like your home address).
- Check your privacy settings: you decide who sees what.
- Keep your most revealing photos and videos in your private albums.
Communication Safety
- Keep your conversations on the platform (messages, video calls, etc.).
- If someone asks to move to Messenger or WhatsApp after two messages, be suspicious.
- Never share your passwords or banking info (never, ever!).
- Report any shady or aggressive behavior immediately. We’ll handle it.
Date Safety
- Prioritize a first contact in a public or neutral spot before going private.
- Tell a friend where you’re going and with whom. The buddy system saves lives.
- Trust your gut: if something feels off, cut the date short. You can always say no.
- Arrange your own transport to get there and back. Stay independent.
Digital Security
- Pick a unique and strong password (not "123456" or your dog’s name).
- Think about what your photos reveal (background, valuables).
The Red Flags (If you encounter them, stay away!)
Learn to spot shady behavior and trust your gut.
Immediate Warning Signs (Danger!)
- Money requests: If someone asks for financial help, gift cards, or a transfer: it’s a scam. Period.
- Refusal of proof: The person refuses a video call or to verify their identity before a date.
- Sob stories: Sudden personal dramas to make you feel sorry for them after 2 days of chatting.
- Excessive pressure: Being pushed to give out your number, address, or nudes.
Worrying Behaviors (Caution)
- Wants to move off JALF immediately to chat elsewhere.
- Avoids answering your questions or stays very vague.
- Their stories change or don’t add up.
- Declares their undying love way too fast (love bombing).
- Becomes aggressive or insults you if you set boundaries.
Need help? We’ve got your back.
Our security team is on watch 24/7. Have a doubt, a question, or ran into a disrespectful member? Let us know. Your well-being is our top priority.